DTR

DTR. Three little letters that can make or break your relationship. What is the DTR? You know what it is. It's when Mandy and Shawn have been dating for 3 weeks, but have never actually addressed the issue with each other. It's when Shawn is having a good time getting to know her. It's when Mandy has been discussing the situation with her roommates each and every night at great lengths to try and determine "where this is all going." It's when finally, Mandy can take it no more, and she says this to an unsuspecting Shawn:

"Shawn, we need to talk."

Baffled, Shawn agrees. Three hours later, he has talked about his feelings until he is ready to dissolve into a puddle of them on the floor. Mandy, feeling much better about their future, holds his hand and supportively offers, "You did good, Shawn. I'm glad we've figured out where we are, where we are going, and how we feel about it."

Shawn merely nods and grunts not feeling the need to offer anything ever again.

This is the DTR. You know it's true. After this conversation, things will continue just as they always have between Mandy and Shawn. The only thing that will have changed is that Mandy will have what she needs: security. Shawn will now live in fear of any time Mandy says, "Shawn, we need to talk."

There are a lot of different opinions as to when, where and how the DTR should happen. The BYU-Idaho Scroll takes a stand as to whether or not the DTR is effective. Check it out:


The Scroll's take on the DTR

Proceed to have the "talk" with caution.