The physical touch barrier is one of the most awkward, yet crucial barriers to cross when dating.
Pop culture even teaches us this. In the movie, Hitch, Hitch gives Albert advice on how to break the touch barrier with his date, Allegra in a “non-sleazy” way. The example he gives is a party. Loud music, crowded, perfect for leaning in and placing his hand on the small of her back. This doesn’t quite work for him in the movie, but it’s sound advice.
Physical contact is an important aspect in a relationship. But it is something that is gradually earned.
A girl will let a guy know that she is interested by making flirtatious touches. On the elbow, the forearm, the shoulder, all playfully done, hoping that her current love interest will pick up on her cues and return the sentiments.
I have seen guys do similar things. Arm over her shoulder, lingering hugs, poking her in the sides, and tickling all equal “I like you.”
But watch out guys, some girls are not picking up what your putting down. Girls, the same goes for you too. It’s something that is very sensitive that must be timely done.
An overzealous attempt at physical contact can often times have one or both parties feeling cold.
Eventually, as the barrier is slowly breached, things can progress to hand-holding and even a goodnight kiss. Just don’t be too hasty.
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